I find it very interesting and slightly frustrating when family members tell us they are going to Maui on vacation & want to meet up while they are there. Either they don't realize we live on the island of Oahu or they seem to be under some delusion that there is a bridge from Oahu to Maui that we can just drive on to see them. If there is a bridge, I haven't seen it in the all the years we have lived here. I don't understand why these people constantly do this, as this is not the first time this has happened while we have lived here. It is like a big slap in the face.
I know that certain members of our families are unhappy we live over 2500 miles away and are not able to visit them more often. They seem to not understand that we live this far away because we needed to get away from the drama & stress being caused by certain people. Moving to Hawaii has been the best thing for us and has helped both of us heal the wounds created by manipulative, backstabbing, angry, abusive, mentally ill people. The people who caused these wounds (yes, there were many people) are in delusions that they did nothing wrong to us & don't understand why we cut contact with most of them. One day they will have to come to terms with the fact that their actions have caused us to take certain precautions and actions against them to protect ourselves from further harm. We have chosen not to be victims anymore, which is the best decision anyone can make in there lives.
We are much happier in Hawaii then we were in California - and that seems to make them even more irritated. But one thing we have embraced is that we live our lives for us - not them.